Toddler biting, kicking, hair pulling and other anti-social behaviors are scary the first time you witness them, whether or not your child is on the receiving end.
This article explains what is going through your toddler's mind when he or she hurts you or another child, and what you can do about it.
Why Toddlers Become Aggressive
Young children can't express themselves properly because of their limited language. Added to this is a distinct lack of self-awareness. This combination can be explosive - more often than not your toddler does not know why he is upset - what's worse, he can't say that he is angry.
If you've ever made an unkind remark and instantly regretted it, imagine that a toddler who sinks her teeth into another's arm is doing the same thing, but without words. Or for that matter regret - that is way over her head.
Often a kick or hair pulling happens on the spur of the moment - these incidents are not premeditated at this age.
Moreover, under the age of 2 the concept of right and wrong is utterly meaningless. So an 18-month-old who responds to their favorite toy being picked up by hitting the other child is not being malicious.
Toddlerhood is a time when ambition outstrips ability. Trying to climb onto a chair that is too high, or pull a cat's tail - the list is endless. Frustration is the result, and biting and so on is sometimes the consequence of that frustration.
What To Do About This Aggressive Behavior
Prevent it if possible. Closely monitor your child if anti-social behavior is becoming a habit. You may have to act like a United Nations peace keeper between warring toddlers, or even avoid danger zones like playgroup for a while.
Remember though that prevention is not always possible - far from it.
Understanding why toddlers bite does not mean we should accept it. You must always respond and take these incidents seriously.
Time out is an effective tactic in the fight against fighting. This is where you isolate the toddler for a short time, based on the idea that ignoring young children is the most powerful way to curb undesirable behavior.
Visit http://www.toddler-ideas.com/toddler-biting.html for more anti-biting strategies, including how not to deal with aggressive behavior. http://www.toddler-ideas.com has lots of tips for life with a child aged 1 -3. It is run by Harriet Morris, mom of 2 and down-to-earth toddler expert.
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